I, You, We,

Live in a society where people will take the time to get to know each other, grow mutual feelings, want all the benefits of a relationship, and yet, not want to be in a relationship.

These same types of people will love bomb you and then say things like, "I'm not ready, I'm too focused on work, I got too much going on". And the slightest inconvenience in their life can end your connection with them, even if you had nothing to do with the said inconvenience.

All these types of excuses are unhealed people who have yet to face their demons. People in pain trying to disguise behind the charm. They just want a distraction to avoid what is eating them up inside. You can't point these people out either. These people have careers, they have assets, friends, travel, and post motivational quotes on their Instagram. The only way you can truly point them out is by having a keen intuition.

I've been this person. I once used every excuse in the book to avoid being committed to anyone. When in reality, I wasn't even committing to myself. Self-inflicting heartbreak because I too was attracting unhealed people. It took me some time to realize how reckless I was to get someone's hopes up and then leave them feeling as though they weren't good enough.

No one likes to be rejected. No one likes to be fooled. No one likes to get heartbroken.

So if you are healed… Understand that it is not your fault. You opened yourself up to the idea of love and you went off their words and actions. You couldn't have possibly prepared to be deceived when all signs pointed to a positive outcome. Unhealed people self-sabotage. Be kind for they don't know any better. Be kind to yourself and acknowledge all the emotions that come with such irresponsible behavior. But most importantly, give yourself time to recover before getting back up and trying again. Because the beauty of being healed is that eventually, we will open ourselves up again…

If you have yet to face your demons… don't be this reckless. Life is already hard.